Recovering Beauty in Your Body.


A large part of recovery rests in the physical body.
Here’s a perspective I hope you can start to embrace.



The Amazing-Aging Beauty Routine


The morning reality check: this body will be ash one day, and until then, I thought it would be a good idea to start appreciating and enjoying this body while I still have it — while I am still in it.
Time in a body-bottle: to appreciate the time in this body. My body holds 49 years. There is history in this body. Glorious stories this body can tell. This body holds its very own epic tales of horror, drama, comedy, romance, and adventure.
The landscape of my body holds scars and wrinkles of time. There’s a scar just below my lip that tells a story of foolish folly. A scar on my knee that tells of risk and adventure. And a scar below my navel that saved my life.
I’ve got a soft potbelly that says I had more important things to do (according to me) than crunching abs. And my soul is delightful, but my body doesn’t like to SoulCycle.
My less pronounced scars, the ones of most meaning — can tell you trills of a heaven, just as much as they can a hell. This body has traveled both.
Amazing wrinkle cream: I gently pat the wrinkles around my eyes with cream. Patting… remembering that I have lived long enough to witness these lines. Gently pressing (filling in) laugh lines with reverie.
I massage the lines on my forehead that formed over years of contemplation. Amazed at all that has run through my mind. There are lifetimes up there — mine, yours, and just about everyone I meet — I try to capture lifetimes in my mind. And the beauty lines that surround the eyes… oh, if these eyes could share their witness. These beauty lines are a measure of my time.
Privilege Powder: I dust myself with the realization that I am only at half-time. That I get the privilege to keep playing, and that I get the privilege to take a half-time break, as to decide how I want to play the rest of the game. Whether I think I’ve been losing or not, I get the privilege to keep going. Time, aging, becomes a gift — to embrace with grace.
Fountain of Youth: Injections include reminding myself that I am the youngest I will ever be, and to not discount myself from the wonder and magic still in my bones. To draw from the nutrients of my bone marrow. To remind myself that I don’t want to be young, per se, but I do want to keep injecting my life with carefreeness, playfulness, gracefulness, and wonderfulness.
Vitality Serum: To slather myself with vitality serum. Ingredients include; music, mischievous, play, dance, service to others, simplicity, spontaneity, laughter, appreciation, and a bit of raw rebellion sometimes. The serum focuses on human senses- to engage and activate sensuality. To not let my senses go dull; to keep them vital.
Evening Body Wash: My evening beauty routine includes disrobing any feelings of lack and not-enoughness, and to strip off socialized constraints from the day. Then stepping into a warm shower to wash my body from any bacteria of shame or unworthiness.
Anointing Oil: The last part of my amazing-aging beauty routine is the anointing oil of allure. With hints of lavender, it’s an evening massage, as I rest in the allure (the mystery and fascination) of this being human. To rest in the knowing that I can’t go back in time, and my only option is to keep moving forward. That the future of my beauty rests in the grace of aging.


The anti-aging game was actually aging me. The fear and the worry was exhausting. I had to stop dying to be beautiful and start daring to define beauty differently.
I had to stop fighting the current of time and embrace the flow of whatever comes my way. Whether it be sorrow, illness, hardships… or the trauma of sagging skin; to embrace the weathering of my life with as much grace as I can muster.
Nor am I after more time. I don’t need more time. I need to fill in the time I already have with this amazing-aging, grace-filled beauty routine.
And no more beauty regrets, because the one regret I do have is that I didn’t know how to experience beauty until now.
I missed my own beauty. I missed it in my twenties, thirties, and in my forties. I was too busy chasing beauty every which way but under my own skin. I didn’t get the chance to experience the sheer joy and delight of my dance, my rhythm, and my style.
I didn’t understand that my attempts were just as beautiful as my failures, my victories just as beautiful as my defeats, that my imperfections were my perfections. I didn’t understand that this entire outfit called being human is beautiful.
At this midlife point in time, I have the chance to change my beauty routine. A chance to let go of my youth (but not my youthfulness) and to experience the grace needed to embrace this amazing body as it continues to pass through the gift of time.




Originally published by Psych Central: World of Psychology:  A Grace-Filled Beauty Routine

Let 2020 Be On You.




“Let this year be on you. Guilt-free,” she told me.
And it’s what I’ve been telling clients this year. Slow down…give yourself the entire year…you’ll get there. 
Offering mental spaces of hope and inspiration as to the value of committing oneself to 2020 differently. Offering a means to acknowledge that they (you, me, we), in and of ourselves – is a worthy aim.
To let go of unnecessary attachments and obligations (including mental and emotional obligations) (if just for this year) in order to commit deeply to the saving of one’s self – to save one’s dignity, self-respect, and integrity – or if nothing else, to give ourselves a year to gain some dignity, self-respect, and integrity.
To let 2020 be a retreat from such attachments and obligations – and because there is nothing selfish about it – if anything, it’s the utmost loving thing to do for yourself (you are worth it), and you will be worth more to those you love and care about.
To give ourselves the chance to be worthy, valuable, useful humans. To give ourselves the chance for a life of priceless matters. And if we learn this for ourselves, can we, just maybe, give more of that which is priceless to others.


Healthcare Professionals: Reduce Burnout with Unseen Daily Gifts




I get painfully fascinated with how much goodness is in our daily lives – in the mundane activities – right in front of us every day, but we miss it. And we wonder why our lives feel dull and lifeless. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
You can read the full article @ PsychCentral Professional → Reduce Burnout by Receiving the Gift of a Thank You
Enjoy, Laura

Opiate Solutions: A Suboxone Taper



At some point, if you know someone struggling with opiate addiction, you may be faced with great controversy regarding the best approach for opioid treatment. 
I am not an advocate for most medication; especially MAT (medication-assisted treatment). Even though I’ve been working with MAT for nine years, I am still not a fan. 
Actually, I take that back. I will support MAT if it’s used as proper drug “rehabilitation”  but it’s generally not. Much like giving people crutches in physical rehabilitation: some treatments are meant to be temporary. 
We (as an industry) and with the rise of pharmaceutical replacements for opioid withdrawal; have gotten in over our heads – but I do want to offer hope if you or a loved one find themselves choosing MAT as an opiate recovery solution. 
Click here to read more at The Fix → The Sliver Plan: A Suboxone Taper  
Best to you, Laura

Sustainable​ Mental Health: Owning Your Unhappiness


It’s okay to look at the unhappy aspects of your life. Acceptance is meant to give you the truth; not cover up it up. Pretending everything is fine is enough to drive you mad crazy, and it’s not sustainable.
Here’s the full article over at Psych Central →  5 Reasons You May Not Be Happy and What to Do about It
ciao for now,

5 Steps to Increase Motivation


I hear it all the time: “I’m not motivated.” For many of my clients, they are referring to not having the motivation to perform basic life responsibilities such as paying bills, cleaning the house, making calls, and taking care of their health.
Read the full article at World of Psychology:  5 Steps to Increase Motivation
Ciao, Laura